EFT will help you identify the real issue by clearing up the disrupted energy that causes harmful anger. This page supplies examples of actual setup statements you can customize for yourself to resolve anger issues.

We will continue now with Example C from the 5 Steps page for troubling feelings. If you need more practice

Review the 5 Steps page

From the 5 steps page recall that you started tapping in example C with this setup phrase:

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
“Even though I’m so angry at _______, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

Tap and repeat one time at each of the 8 other points:
“so angry at__________."

Rate your intensity 0-10
If, after this round you were not at 0 or 1 you may have chosen to go on tapping with this round from the 5 Steps page:

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
“Even though I'm extremely angry at ______ because she never listens to me and I feel ignored (invisible, unimportant, insignificant), I still deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

OR

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
“Even though I'm extremely angry at ______ because he cares more about watching the game than he does being with me, and it hurts my feelings, I still deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

Tap and repeat one time at each of the 8 other points:
“extremely angry at__________."

Rate your intensity 0-10

EFT Tap Map

Note: Please remember, EFT will be connecting your thoughts, feelings and energy together, so make your statements personal and in your own words. The more meaning and feeling your words create the more effective they will be.

If your intensity is not 0 or 1, try customizing one of these statements:

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
“Even though I don’t think ___________ respects my opinions or feelings, and I feel hurt and betrayed by her, I still deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

OR

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
“Even though I feel abandoned by ___________because the game is more interesting to him than I am and maybe I’m just a boring person, but I still deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

Tap and repeat one time at each of the 8 other points:
"I feel hurt & betrayed... "
OR
"I feel abandoned..."

Continue being ever more descriptive with yourself. These setup statements can be lengthy and even rambling, as long as they convey clearly what you think and how you really feel.

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
“Even though __________always says she doesn’t understand me and it’s like we’re speaking different languages…and I don’t know how to do it differently so I end up feeling frustrated at her, but I still deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

OR

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
“Even though I’ve been abandoned again, just like my last relationship… and just like when my Dad left me when I was 8… and I feel like everyone leaves me because I’m boring (unlovable, not good enough)…but I still deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

Tap and repeat one time at each of the 8 other points:
"I'm frustrated..."

OR

"they leave me because I'm boring (unlovable, not good enough)"

Rate your intensity again.

Notice how anger has likely given way to the root feelings and issues. Also, notice how choices can be used effectively once the anger is released. Also, be aware of behavioral and responsibility themes about yourself. Our own contributions to an ongoing problem begin to stand out without the excess emotion as a distraction. For example:

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
"Even though I’ve been blaming ________for not listening to me, and for hurting and betraying me, I choose now to be responsible for my part in this... and I'd like to find a way to communicate so she will understand me, because I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

OR

Tap side of hand & repeat 3 times
“Even though I feel tremendous loss and profound sadness because I didn’t have my Dad for most of my life… and I seem to be choosing men who will leave me too, but I choose to love and forgive myself anyway.”

Tap and repeat one time at each of the 8 other points:
"I've been blaming________"

OR

"this loss and sadness..."

Using EFT to resolve anger brings a greater sense of control and satisfaction to your life. Anger management techniques atempt to change behaviors. EFT is about freeing yourself from the blocked energy that causes anger or other disrupting emotions.

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